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Forgive Yourself and the Past Will Stop Calling You

A friend opened my mind the other day to a new way of looking at those things from the past that we can’t seem to let go.

She said, “When the past calls, let it go to voice mail; it’s got nothing new to say.”

the words forgive yourself written in sand on the beach, little waves rolling in

When the past keeps calling, it is because we have not heard its message. The message is that we cannot forget our mistakes before we have forgiven ourselves for them.

This bit of advice has been circulating for a while, so you might have heard it before. The truth is, there’s a reason the past keeps calling to remind us of our worst moments, to remind us of the bad choices we’ve made that we’d rather forget.

The past continues to call because we have not heard the message it has for us. The message is that we cannot forget the past before we have forgiven ourselves for it. The past will continue to call until we have finished with it by forgiving ourselves. Sending the past to voice mail only prolongs our suffering.

It’s so easy to be hard on ourselves when really, all we are called to do is love ourselves. We show love for our current self when we forgive the imperfections of our past self.   Continue reading

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