If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of someone’s honesty, you know how much it can hurt. It never has
Let your words be sweet.
to be that way.
Perhaps that experience has caused you to be less than honest with others when what you really wanted to do was to tell them the truth. You stopped yourself because you were afraid stating certain facts or sharing your own opinion would hurt their feelings.
A friend opened my mind the other day to a new way of looking at those things from the past that we can’t seem to let go.
She said, “When the past calls, let it go to voice mail; it’s got nothing new to say.”
When the past keeps calling, it is because we have not heard its message. The message is that we cannot forget our mistakes before we have forgiven ourselves for them.
This bit of advice has been circulating for a while, so you might have heard it before. The truth is, there’s a reason the past keeps calling to remind us of our worst moments, to remind us of the bad choices we’ve made that we’d rather forget.
The past continues to call because we have not heard the message it has for us. The message is that we cannot forget the past before we have forgiven ourselves for it. The past will continue to call until we have finished with it by forgiving ourselves. Sending the past to voice mail only prolongs our suffering.
It’s so easy to be hard on ourselves when really, all we are called to do is love ourselves. We show love for our current self when we forgive the imperfections of our past self. Continue reading