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Mother’s Day Isn’t for Every Woman

There’s an assumption that females of a certain age must be mothers. That’s an assumption that makes Mother’s Day painful for women who are childless by

toddler slide at playground, Mother's Day Isn't for Every Woman. Life is HOT blog, Brad W. Smith, photographer

Empty arms ache for a child who will not ever be there.

chance, not by choice. Mother’s Day is a very different experience for women who would have liked to include Mother in their life history, but for reasons ranging from medical to relational, have never had children by birth, adoption, foster or marriage, and never will.

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Win the Gold in Conversation

The XXII Olympic Winter Games 2014 are beginning in Sochi. Most of us are not the exceptional athletes in the sports featured

five middle-aged white men and women, yellow tablecloth, filled wood bookshelves

Going for the gold in conversation means achieving stronger relationships

at the Olympics. We are, or can be, exceptional in our own daily events.

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Can’t You Take a Joke?

I’ve been asked, “Can’t you take a joke?” more than a few times, and I bet you have too. Ever notice how it is always after someone has said something that is offensive and disrespectful?

Does the question leave you speechless the way it does me?

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Do we take the time to sit down and listen to ourselves and understand how our words are heard by others? Or do we believe our words to be empty and meaningless and therefore, unimportant?

It’s a lame attempt to cover up for a rude statement by shifting responsibility from the speaker to the listener. The original statement and the ‘joke’ question that follows are disrespectful behavior. They take away from our intimacy and enjoyment of each other.

I have an answer to that question. My answer puts responsibility back where it belongs. Even better, it allows me to maintain my self-respect and show respect for others.

Here’s a hint: it’s not a smart-mouthed comeback.

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