A few weeks ago I wrote about putting yourself first and I asked the question, if you don’t put yourself first, who will? It’s the same way with self confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?
Building your confidence comes from realizing success, and success comes with confidence.
Confidence, believing in yourself, is a way of thinking about yourself and how you interpret what happens to you in life. When you think and act with confidence, you feel powerful and in control of your life. And, you’re more likely to experience success and to be seen as successful.
When we were kids, I taught my brother how to ride a bike. We had a long gravel driveway that circled around to form the letter P so you could drive up to the house and also around to the garage.
You can focus on the obstacles to your success, or focus on the way past them that will allow you to reach your goals.
We’d start at the foot of our driveway, and he’d try to keep his balance for as long as he could. It wasn’t too long before he was peddling on his own, wobbling and fiercely concentrating on maintaining his balance. At the other end of the straight part of the driveway was our aluminum fishing boat. Eventually, he got to where he’d make it pretty close to that boat. I’d shout to him, “don’t hit the boat, don’t hit the boat.”
How many times have you heard others say, “failure is not an option”?
Perhaps you’ve said it yourself. What you and they really mean is that failure is not an acceptable outcome to them in this situation.
Many times we face seemingly do-or-die situations – a positive outcome means we win the big pot of gold and public acclamation, a negative means we leave with nothing. But either way, we’re still who we really are, and those who believe in us, still believe in us.
If failure is truly not an option, than that means we will always succeed, no matter how difficult the task, how great the risk, or how little we have prepared ourselves for success.
The world doesn’t work that way, of course. Success only comes with effort. So in truth, failure is always a possibility, and therefore, while it may not be our choice to fail, failure is always an option.
Or to look at it another way, if we really are not permitted to fail, than we’d better not try at all. Continue reading