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Filtering the White Noise

Have you ever spent time at the shore watching the tide push in and pull back again?

rocks form small inlet; water swirls

Frequent conversations on the same topics with the same people can become ‘white noise’ in your relationships that keep you from listening.

It’s a passive activity that lulls you into a near-hypnotic state of relaxation. After a while, the overpowering sound from the relentless ebb and flow of water becomes mere white noise. Constant, without discernible distinct sounds, you become unaware of it. 

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The Courage to Change

One definition of insanity is to continue doing the same thing but to expect a different result. Too often I see otherwise sane and intelligent people act as though they

sunny day, young woman in shades, orange kayak, blue water

We can settle for what comes our way, or we can go after what we want.

always have, and yet expect that a relationship, health, or job situation will change in precisely the way they want.

It’s easy to tell yourself that others must do the changing. You don’t have to do anything except sit back and wait. Your wish is your command.

Except, your wish is only your wish. If you really expect things to change, then you have to be the one to make the change. Continue reading

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What I Learned Living in New Jersey

When I was in high school in Iowa I worked a number of part-time jobs, mostly in retail. Back then, I figured the primary benefit of those jobs was not the paycheck.

the words love yourself written in sand on the New Jersey Shore little waves rolling in

Experience every bit of life and let it continually reshape you.

The primary benefit was that I would learn something – about life, about other people, about myself. I figured as long as I kept my mind open to learning a lesson larger than the tasks required for the job, then I was meeting my goal.

When I moved to New Jersey 13 years ago, I took that same perspective: Stay open to what life’s experiences have to teach you. I thought I’d share 13 things I have learned while living here. Continue reading

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