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Ask for the Apology You Deserve

You’ve been wronged and you know it. But the person who wronged you hasn’t said, “I’m sorry.” How do you ask for the apology you deserve?

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I’m all for directly stating what you need and what you want in a relationship. When you’ve been hurt and you need to ask for the apology you deserve, you won’t get it by saying, “You need to apologize to me.”

What will get you the apology you deserve is to ask to talk about what happened and how you feel. Continue reading


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Hey You! I’m Talking to You

Somewhere, deep inside you, is a part of you yearning for a piece of your own attention.


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Quiet time alone by yourself restores your soul and feeds your spirit in a way that being engaged with others in an activity cannot.


On Monday I wrote about how maintaining a strong sense of self requires time alone and how an intimate connection with yourself deserves the same urgent attention that you give to the needs of everyone else.

Yes, we are meant to be with others. We are also meant to be alone with ourselves. Continue reading

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Playing Second Fiddle Is Harder

The late American composer, conductor and pianist Leonard Bernstein once said that playing second fiddle is the most difficult instrument of all. “…to find someone who can play the second fiddle with enthusiasm – that’s a problem; and if we have no second fiddle, we have no harmony.”

Mastering the art of conversation requires both the willingness and the ability to play second fiddle.

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