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Please Make This Argument Go Away

I’ve spent the last few days immersed in family history, including the story of two brothers who split apart, became business competitors, and apparently did not speak to each other ever again.

autumn trees around the lake, reflected in the water.

We cannot change the future by reflecting on the past. History cannot change, but it does not have to repeat itself.

Talk about having an argument! Something tells me this was over more than who got the wishbone after Thanksgiving dinner.It is of course pure supposition on my part, but my guess is that they never resolved their conflict because they focused only on what had happened in the past, instead of how they could work together in the future.

It doesn’t matter whether the conflict is about something monumentally significant or infinitesimally small; a conflict is really about one person losing so the other can win. I have to be right. So that means you must be wrong.  Continue reading

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Report Card: One Month into Forming a New Habit

Last month, I told you that the one resolution I made this year was to live life in honesty, openness and truth, to the best of my ability, in every interaction, in every matter.

Forming a New Habit, Brad W. Smith photographer, Lifeishotblog

Being at the helm of your life requires great skill to navigate the obstacles

I also said that I was only going to keep this resolution for one month, with an option to renew each month, and to let you know in early February how well it worked for me in January.

When I started this blog it was to engage in conversation about what it means to be honest in what we say and do, to be open to others – who most likely have differing viewpoints, and to be true to ourselves in all situations.  Continue reading

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Resolve to Be Your Own Friend

The kind of person I want to be is a person who is my own best friend. The person who respects my thoughts and soothes my fears.

wide path bound by closely spaced young trees

We are meant to only see so far ahead. We are not meant to see all the way to the end.

 

The person who says to me, sit down, put your feet up, you’ve done enough for right now, take time to recharge your batteries. The person who forgives me my errors and recognizes my humanness. You made a mistake? It’s okay.

Rather than making resolutions to be better for others, we should resolve only to be better for ourselves. Continue reading

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