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Why Conflict is Good For You

If you’re like most people, you try to avoid conflict. You shouldn’t. Conflict is good for you because it provides the opportunity to tell someone about your

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When a conflict arises, your first instinct may be to bury it inside, or to erupt in dramatic anger. Neither is good because you won’t have accomplished your real goal of changing the situation.

boundary and for that person to make a change. Conflict arises when how someone treats you or speaks to you crosses the boundaries of how you want others to treat you or speak to you. A conflict is simply the discovery and acknowledgement that the way the two of you relate to each other currently is not working.

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Hey You! I’m Talking to You

Somewhere, deep inside you, is a part of you yearning for a piece of your own attention.

 

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Quiet time alone by yourself restores your soul and feeds your spirit in a way that being engaged with others in an activity cannot.

 

On Monday I wrote about how maintaining a strong sense of self requires time alone and how an intimate connection with yourself deserves the same urgent attention that you give to the needs of everyone else.

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Be Reasonable, Do It My Way

“Be reasonable, do it my way,” was an expression my mother sometimes used in jest when she had what she thought was the best solution for a problem, and was

2 rigging ropes, each formed into a knotted ball and tied to form a weight.

Knots have their useful purpose, and sometimes you have to unravel the knot so that you can achieve a different, and equally useful, purpose.

unable to convince the other person she was right. Of course, while that statement alone didn’t often get Mom what she wanted , wouldn’t your life be great if all your conflicts could be resolved simply by insisting on having your way?

You can have that easier life and resolve your conflicts if, in aiming for resolution, you follow three simple rules.

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