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How do I Get to Know You?

What can I do to get to know other people?

I’m so glad you asked me.

seated at table, l-r, balding man with glasses next to gray-haired woman with glasses; they are across from gray-haired woman, back to camera

The conversational habit of asking questions will not only tell you a lot about others, it will tell them a lot about you.

Listening to what others say is of course paramount.

Listening to what is meant by what they say is even more effective.

Of course, in order for you to listen, the other person needs to talk. My favorite way to get to know others is to simply ask them questions and then listen!

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We’re About to be Homeless

Friday and Saturday the moving company came and moved most everything out of the house. We’ve spent the last few nights at a friend’s house. Today, Brad will load

Brad W. Smith photographer, moving van, LifeIsHOTBlog Homeless

Nothing changes your relationship to your stuff life packing and physically moving it.

a few things into a rental truck, and after we finish up the paperwork of selling the house, we’ll be technically homeless. Although, it hardly feels that way. If anything, the logistics of selling a home makes you acutely aware of all of your stuff.

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Win, Lose or Collaborate?


We’re surrounded by it every waking moment. Football, golf, basketball and hockey are in season, and the Winter Olympics are just around the corner.

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Working together we accomplish far more than we ever can working in isolation or against all others.

We have no shortage of sports competitions to watch. The calendar is just weeks away from flipping over to 2014, and that means many companies are ending their fiscal years. We have no shortage of competition to reach year-end goals and quotas. Retailers are competing for our holiday shopping dollars. We have no shortage of options of where to spend our money.

In the right context, such as when it is between teams or organizations that desire opposite and mutually exclusive outcomes, competition is good. In the wrong context, such as when all participants should be reaching for the same goals, like within a work group or company, within a family, or between two people in a relationship, competition will prevent them from achieving as much as they can when they cooperate and collaborate.

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