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I don’t know.

One thing I’ve noticed in working with people is that some always have an answer, even when it is clear they don’t know what they’re talking about. They’ve never become comfortable with saying, “I don’t know.”  

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We love to give answers. Sometimes we better serve others and ourselves when we are willing to say, “I don’t know.”

We all want answers because we hate ambiguity. We all want answers because answers give us a sense of control. When they are incomplete, or rooted in beliefs, not facts, answers can turn a good situation bad,  and make a bad situation worse.

We do ourselves and those around us a tremendous favor when we become willing to say, “I don’t know,” instead of jumping to conclusions or insisting that we have an answer when at best we have only some of the facts or even, only our firmly held beliefs. Continue reading

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Can I Hear You?

I’ve had to do a lot of listening in the past month, and it hasn’t always been easy. In this case, I use the word listening to mean those situations where the other person is engaged in a long monologue, and I’m the lone listener.

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A resolute Joshua Tree perseveres in the desert of Joshua Tree National Park

Sometimes, it’s not a conversation because the person is retelling something from the past. Or sharing something from the present that is painful. Or simply talking out of a desire to connect with another, with me. Continue reading

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