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Don’t Tell Me You Don’t Have Time

“I don’t have time.” 

I hear that phrase in one form or another at least once a week.

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We all have the same amount of time, so why do some people manage to get done so much more than others?

Usually from the same few people week after week. Some of these people are far less busy than I am.

When I hear someone say this, I ask myself, Is it true? How can you not have time when we all have the same amount of time? We all have 24 hours in a day, seven days in a week, 365 days in a year.

Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes

Five hundred twenty-five thousand journeys to plan

Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes

How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?

 ~ “Seasons of Love,” from ‘Rent,’ the Broadway musical

The truth of the matter is we have all the time we need to accomplish everything when we are clear about our goals, are willing to set priorities, and we commit to managing our time well.   Continue reading

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When Death Calls, What Do You Say?

On Monday I wrote about the 12 Thoughtless Things People Say When Someone Dies. Of course we want to know the right thing to say when someone dies, but what can sound like the right thing to us does not at all sound like the right thing to the person who is grieving the death of a loved one.

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When we choose our words for how they are heard, we can bring comfort to those grieving a death.

Here is a quick check list to help you judge whether the words you’re about to say are likely to bring comfort, or only more sorrow. Continue reading

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12 Thoughtless Things People Say When Someone Dies

Somewhere in our upbringing many of us were taught to not talk about death, and when death happens, to not talk about our feelings of loss.

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Chances are good that by the time the memorial service ends, the family and closest friends will have heard several thoughtless comments that people say when someone dies.

 

As a logical consequence, when someone dies, we have no idea what to say. So in a well-meaning but ignorant effort to provide comfort, or out of our own discomfort with silence or with the emotional pain of the loss, we open our mouth and insert our foot.

Sadly, ignorance is endlessly creative, and so there are far more than a dozen ways to be thoughtless with our words and inflict pain instead of bringing comfort and consolation. I picked these 12 things to not say when someone dies because I think they are the most likely ones we mistakenly believe are actually helpful. Continue reading

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