Do you ever feel really frustrated by a situation and with the people who are part of it? Of course you do. It happens whenever there’s as a gap between what we think we need and what we perceive is happening.
Frustration + Anxiety = Stress
As I write this on Sunday, we are in the midst of moving the contents of four rooms – big, heavy furniture, pictures, rugs, knick-knacks, and lots of books – in what at times feels like a grand game of musical chairs. I’m not sure everything will have a seat when the music stops.
Keep in mind we both work at home, so all of this disruption affects both of us around the clock. Talk about frustration! Talk about anxiety!
There was a time when speaking up about my needs in this kind of situation would have meant to me that I was being selfish. So I would have stayed silent. Looking back on those times, I realize my actions did a lot of speaking for me.
Fortunately, I’ve learned to follow a four-step process that involves a lot of speaking and only a few actions. When we speak what we feel, we often are rewarded with actions that close that gap and eliminate the frustration, anxiety and stress. Continue reading
If Dad were still alive, today he and Mom would be celebrating their 60th anniversary. Because he is not, later today, Mom will receive a beautiful bouquet of flowers from their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren in Dad’s memory and in honor of their long marriage.
Happy 60th wedding anniversary, Mom and Dad
Opposites attract, and that was certainly true in their case. Although, as Mom would remind me, just being husband and wife is opposite enough. After a short courtship, Dad shipped out to fight in the Korean War. The remainder of their courtship was chronicled in a suitcase full of airmailed letters. When he returned, they married, and for six decades they remained wholly committed to one another.
While many of us may never live to see our 60th anniversary, we can all take steps to ensure our own marriage or partnership lasts a lifetime. Continue reading
About a month ago I got an email from my brokerage firm thanking me for my recent trade. Puzzled, because I hadn’t made a trade, and a little concerned that someone was messing with my account, I called. A pleasant and helpful person on the phone reviewed my account and reported that nothing was amiss. Assured, I dismissed the matter. Continue reading