Do you ever feel really frustrated by a situation and with the people who are part of it? Of course you do. It happens whenever there’s as a gap between what we think we need and what we perceive is happening.
Frustration + Anxiety = Stress
As I write this on Sunday, we are in the midst of moving the contents of four rooms – big, heavy furniture, pictures, rugs, knick-knacks, and lots of books – in what at times feels like a grand game of musical chairs. I’m not sure everything will have a seat when the music stops.
Keep in mind we both work at home, so all of this disruption affects both of us around the clock. Talk about frustration! Talk about anxiety!
There was a time when speaking up about my needs in this kind of situation would have meant to me that I was being selfish. So I would have stayed silent. Looking back on those times, I realize my actions did a lot of speaking for me.
Fortunately, I’ve learned to follow a four-step process that involves a lot of speaking and only a few actions. When we speak what we feel, we often are rewarded with actions that close that gap and eliminate the frustration, anxiety and stress. Continue reading
Welcome to contributor Greg Richardson who has some great thoughts on seeing clearly.
Seeing clearly can be a challenge for me. I have been nearsighted for as long as I can remember. I got my first pair of eyeglasses when I was in third grade, because I could not see the board in school.
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I cannot read anything that is my arm’s length away without their help.
My glasses allow me to see things clearly and distinctly that would otherwise be lost to me. I cannot really appreciate beautiful photographs or painting, or beautiful faces, without them. I cannot drive without them. Continue reading
I made a mistake the other day in planning my schedule, a mistake that inconvenienced several others.
The smallest mistake can send us tumbling. How do you right yourself again?
I was to pick up a friend so we could go together to a birthday party dinner in a town about 45 minutes away. For some inexplicable reason, I planned to pick her up a full hour later than I needed to for us to arrive on time. To make matters worse, I was 15 minutes late in picking her up.
Fortunately, I realized my mistake and called the hostess and informed her of my error. She graciously accepted my explanation and my apology and held dinner for us. We hurried as best we could. Outwardly, things were fine. Inwardly, it could have been another story. Continue reading
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