Apart from the birth of a child, I can think of no voluntary action more disruptive than moving. Nothing throws you out of your routine faster than having to search for every
When our expectations are disrupted, our way of seeing things can change.
single item you want, or having to remember in what cupboard, drawer or closet you have put it.
You know exactly what it is like.
Have you ever thought about how moving represents a total break in your routine, and as such, it is more than disruptive, it is also invigorating? Continue reading
One week from today I will realize a long-delayed dream of moving away from New Jersey. When I moved here in 2000 from Iowa, it was with the intention of staying at
A fond farewell to a place that has provided more experiences than I ever could have imagined.
least three years, and no more than five. Here it is 13 years and six months later. Life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans.
I looked forward to the move to New Jersey for a job in New York that I enjoyed – and the cultural diversity and experiences that are only possible when you live in a true melting pot area. If you’ve ever lived in this part of the country, you know what I mean.
Do you ever feel really frustrated by a situation and with the people who are part of it? Of course you do. It happens whenever there’s as a gap between what we think we need and what we perceive is happening.
Frustration + Anxiety = Stress
As I write this on Sunday, we are in the midst of moving the contents of four rooms – big, heavy furniture, pictures, rugs, knick-knacks, and lots of books – in what at times feels like a grand game of musical chairs. I’m not sure everything will have a seat when the music stops.
Keep in mind we both work at home, so all of this disruption affects both of us around the clock. Talk about frustration! Talk about anxiety!
There was a time when speaking up about my needs in this kind of situation would have meant to me that I was being selfish. So I would have stayed silent. Looking back on those times, I realize my actions did a lot of speaking for me.
Fortunately, I’ve learned to follow a four-step process that involves a lot of speaking and only a few actions. When we speak what we feel, we often are rewarded with actions that close that gap and eliminate the frustration, anxiety and stress. Continue reading