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No One Deserves a Second Chance

Have you ever known someone who treats someone, or everyone, as though no one ever gets a second chance?

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Do you close the relationship and lock out a person who has disappointed you or do you grant a second chance when it has been earned? Kevin May, photographer

They simply slam the door on anyone who has fallen from grace by admitting to infidelity in a relationship, lawbreaking, an addiction to an unhealthy lifestyle, or even holding a contrary point of view. Continue reading

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The Secret about Lying

“People think that a liar gains a victory over

his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act

of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s

reality to the person to whom one lies…”

~ Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Want better relationships? Want to feel better about yourself? The secret is simple and something that you learned many years ago. It is this: tell the truth when you speak to others about yourself.

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You build a strong foundation for close relationships with others when you exhibit credibility, integrity and trust.

Intentionally creating a false belief – lying – creates barriers between you and other people. When you lie, your motivation, at least in part, is to make others like you better, or to make decisions in your favor, or to cover up an embarrassing mistake you’ve made.

You lie to maintain the illusion of high personal value, or personal wealth, in the eyes of others.

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Avoid These Six Apology Errors

Since we are human, it is inevitable that we will make mistakes. When we do, we need to know how to make amends. One of the steps is to make an effective apology,

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Whether we intend them or not, our actions can have consequences that cause damage. It’s not always easy to make things right, but it is our obligation to accept and acknowledge our responsibility, and to apologize.

one where our only agenda is to heal the damage to the relationship as a result of our words or actions. Research has shown that genuine apologies help us reconnect with those we’ve wronged by letting them know we’re aware that what we’ve done affects them. Yet, so many of us manage to sabotage our own efforts in one or more of these six ways.

 

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