What does it mean to be true? It means that you uphold yourself and put your needs first so that you’re able to meet the needs of those you love or are responsible to.
You love yourself fully when you create a vision for your life and take responsibility for realizing it. Put yourself on the path to reach your dreams.
It means you know your values and are guided by them in all that you do. It also means that you do not do things just to please others when those things violate your values or your boundaries. Sometimes it means you let others be responsible for their feelings and actions. You hold yourself responsible for your own feelings and actions.
Being true is the third component of the Live HOT way of life and the guiding principles to loving yourself.
Martina McGowan made a brave decision at an early age to be true to herself, and in that moment, she changed the course of her life. You can change the course of your life too. You begin by knowing who you are.
“If you know who you are, no one can define you.
If you know what you stand for, no one can distort you.”
~ Lolly Daskal
Perhaps it is because February is Black History Month that I am suddenly reminded of this story.
I am a native Yankee. My parents, grandparents, etc are all from the South. My great-grandfather was a freed slave.
Statue of James Meredith on the campus of Mississippi University. Meredith enrolled in Ole Miss after a US Supreme Court ruling enforced desegregation there. Photo courtesy of Creative Commons.
We often travelled through the deep South visiting relatives who had not moved northward in the great migration seeking better lives.
So, as a small child, Continue reading