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Pants On Fire

Most of us are in the habit of telling the truth, as we understand it, most of the time. We practice honesty in everyday things like where we are going and what we are doing, and we are genuine and authentic in how we present ourselves to others.

2 profile and 2 full facial images revealed in the sand

When the sands shift and the face of truth is revealed, we have choices to make. We want to remain loyal to our relationships, yet we must also remain loyal to our own values and boundaries.

We do not live in the pants-on-fire red zone of a moral and factual truth-o-meter.

We expect others to be equally honest and truthful about themselves and their actions. We overlook the little lies to smooth over a rough spot in a relationship or the occasional taking of undeserved credit for a share of the work or success of a project. We expect that on the whole, others will accurately present to us their beliefs, values and personal conduct, and we will do the same. That’s why when we discover someone has intentionally and radically lied about these things, we feel violated and betrayed. 

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Five Minute Friday: View

I’ve gotten up early to have some quiet time free from radio or TV or music streaming live from the Internet. Fog obscures the tops of buildings and limits my ability to see beyond a couple of blocks of houses to the fields and trees that surround our neighborhood.

two rows of grape vines growing, one on either side, with fog obscuring the rest of the vineyard and the surrounding countryside.

When denial obscures our thinking, it is easy to believe that we’re seeing all that there is to see and nothing is hidden from our view.

If I did not know better, I would think that everything I cannot see looks just like what I can see. In a few hours, the sun will shine so brightly that I will need sunglasses.

Misinformation is the fog that hides the truths we need. The truths that we need to make the right choices for ourselves, the choices that we would make if only we could see the truth. Continue reading

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