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Yes, You Can Trust Yourself

You are your own greatest gift.

When you speak kindly to yourself, listen to yourself, acknowledge your own needs and take care of them,


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You trust in what appears to be trustworthy, until you have to let go and plunge straight into the cold unknown.


and when you trust yourself, you are accepting the gift of yourself.

Doing these things can be hard in times of personal struggle, especially when someone important to you is causing you to doubt yourself. This happens especially in divorce.

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The Value of a Lie

Do we ever outgrow the desire to get away with something? Do we ever outgrow the desire to tell a lie?

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Just as you may not know what disturbed the water but you see its effects in the ripples, a lie does not have to be discovered to affect your relationships.

Remember how when you were a kid and you told a fib and you got away with it? Or at least for a little while you thought you did? It didn’t matter whether you did it to not get in trouble, or just because you wanted the thrill of a secret.

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The Secret about Lying

“People think that a liar gains a victory over

his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act

of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s

reality to the person to whom one lies…”

~ Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Want better relationships? Want to feel better about yourself? The secret is simple and something that you learned many years ago. It is this: tell the truth when you speak to others about yourself.

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You build a strong foundation for close relationships with others when you exhibit credibility, integrity and trust.

Intentionally creating a false belief – lying – creates barriers between you and other people. When you lie, your motivation, at least in part, is to make others like you better, or to make decisions in your favor, or to cover up an embarrassing mistake you’ve made.

You lie to maintain the illusion of high personal value, or personal wealth, in the eyes of others.

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