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Helping a Grieving Friend Through Christmas

‘Tis the season for eggnog and grief. Christmastime is here and it can be a grueling and gut-wrenching reminder of the relationship that has ended for someone who has lost a loved one through death or divorce or discord.

empty leather chair, red plaid blanket, next to Christmas tree

Christmas can be especially difficult when someone is missing. Brad W. Smith, photographer

We can’t bring back the dead, restore a marriage or repair a relationship, but we can be a good friend to a friend who is struggling in this joyous holiday.

As a friend, it helps to first of all remember there is no time limit on mourning.

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Announcing Life Is Hot Cards

You may have noticed the banner across the top of this blog. It says two things – Hot Expresso, and Life Is Hot Cards.

Japanese garden with arched bridge over stream

cover: When you take a small step forward everyday
inside: It’s not long before you can look back and
see you have indeed made progress.
Know that I am here as you journey through
grief to reach joy again on the other side.

HotExpresso is the name of a business I started with Brad many years ago. The name comes from my last name, Hotchkiss, and the fact we’re in the business of creating expressions – in video – customized for your needs. By the way, espresso is derived from the Italian word for express since espresso is made to order and served immediately to the customer.

In the center of the banner, in between the two words, is a postal cancellation mark bearing the words Life Is Hot Cards.

I haven’t said anything about it until now, but we’ve been busy creating a line of cards for all of the hard realities of life that come our way. Continue reading

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Stop Listening!

Not too long ago I read a post by executive coach and Enneagram expert, Wendy Appel, called “The Bamboo Leader.” In it, she likened the qualities of bamboo to desirable qualities within people. Principal among them were the qualities of being flexible, resilient and versatile. She advised that to be a Bamboo Leader, we must seek to understand others through listening to their words and being open to their point of view. She also noted that listening to the words of others is not the same as adopting their point of view.

two silhouettes in bamboo

Strong, flexible and resilient bamboo is equally suited for creating boundaries and protecting itself from what it does not need. Bamboo Forest location: The Grounds for Sculpture, Trenton, NJ

Reading her post made me think about the times we need to reject others points of view and in that way, not listen to them. Sometimes, we need to stop listening so that we can remain true to ourselves and so that we can protect ourselves from hurt and harm. Continue reading

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