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Listening as an Act of Love

Have you read the book, Listening Is an Act of Love? It’s a compilation of stories collected by StoryCorps founder

white background, black lettering, color photos of peopleDave Isay from the lives of regular folks like you and me. Isay understands everybody in this world has a story to tell, they just need someone who is important to them who will listen. We celebrate life when we stop and listen to how it looks through another’s eyes. Continue reading

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Never Let Words have Power Over You

Why do you let words have power over you? I heard from some readers after I wrote about the controversary of using either ‘the n-word’ or the actual word. Some were offended that I dared to say

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Words can hurt, and when you let them, they fester and become your master. To free yourself from the power of those words over you, take back the power through repeated use, until you have reduced them to mere words on paper.

nigger, even when calling it an offensive word. Some agreed that using substitutions for the word creates further barriers.

More than one suggested that using it repeatedly takes the power away from the word as a pejorative, the way homosexuals adopted use of the word queer and made it their own. (Remember, the original meaning of queer was ‘strange,’ or ‘odd,’ and only later did it become a slur.) Continue reading

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10 Things to Say When Someone You Love is Getting a Divorce

When someone you care about announces she is getting a divorce, what do you say?

Fortunately for you, there are a lot of options. I’ve listed 10 below, and you’ll know which ones will do the most good for your friend if you start not by doing a lot of talking, but by doing a lot of listening.

 

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A divorce is both a sunset and a sunrise. It is a a time to express regret and sadness for the time that has ended, and anticipation and wonder for the new life that is waiting to start.

A good response is like a good meal. It starts with a small appetizer to appease the hunger, more to nourish and sustain, and ends with a light and satisfying morsel. By listening carefully, you’ll be able to respond with the right words and assure your friend she made the right choice in confiding in you. If you’re a close friend, you’re going to get a lot of opportunity to listen over the coming months. Continue reading

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