Not that long ago two friends of mine ended their long relationship.
When we let words wash over us without listening to them, we fail to understand their meaning.
She eagerly wanted commitment, talked with him about it often, and tried countless ways to impose it upon him. He zealously did not want commitment, openly said so, and consistently maintained his own ways. After several years, she finally listened to him.
The late leadership authority Dr. Stephen Covey cautioned that, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Continue reading
Do you ever feel really frustrated by a situation and with the people who are part of it? Of course you do. It happens whenever there’s as a gap between what we think we need and what we perceive is happening.
Frustration + Anxiety = Stress
As I write this on Sunday, we are in the midst of moving the contents of four rooms – big, heavy furniture, pictures, rugs, knick-knacks, and lots of books – in what at times feels like a grand game of musical chairs. I’m not sure everything will have a seat when the music stops.
Keep in mind we both work at home, so all of this disruption affects both of us around the clock. Talk about frustration! Talk about anxiety!
There was a time when speaking up about my needs in this kind of situation would have meant to me that I was being selfish. So I would have stayed silent. Looking back on those times, I realize my actions did a lot of speaking for me.
Fortunately, I’ve learned to follow a four-step process that involves a lot of speaking and only a few actions. When we speak what we feel, we often are rewarded with actions that close that gap and eliminate the frustration, anxiety and stress. Continue reading
Tomorrow is Christmas, a very holy day for our family. Our lives are filled with the joy of sharing this holiday with family andfriends. We are blessed, but I know
Bringing peace on earth and good will to all.
others are acutely missing those who are not in their lives but should be.
I’m not talking about those who are simply celebrating Christmas someplace else, those who are away in military service, or even those who have died. While we miss those people, there’s a different kind of hole in our hearts for those who have broken their connection to us. Continue reading