Saturday night we had a marvelous time taking part in a lively discussion in a friend’s living room with a half-dozen of his friends.
Everyone speaking all at once can be like watching fireworks – there are so many outbursts vying for your attention, you can’t savor a moment, and the noise is deafening.
By the end of the night, they were our new friends, people whose insights and points of view we value. We look forward to getting to know them better.
Discussion is far too mild a word for the evening’s exchange. It was nothing short of conversational cacophony. A full-on orchestra of voices. Fortissimo. Vivace. Most of the time no fewer than four or five people were talking, sometimes all nine of us were eagerly sharing our own point of view. In their passion to reinforce their point, some people would stand, even jump up and down and wave their arms. Continue reading
Not too long ago I read a post by executive coach and Enneagram expert, Wendy Appel, called “The Bamboo Leader.” In it, she likened the qualities of bamboo to desirable qualities within people. Principal among them were the qualities of being flexible, resilient and versatile. She advised that to be a Bamboo Leader, we must seek to understand others through listening to their words and being open to their point of view. She also noted that listening to the words of others is not the same as adopting their point of view.
Strong, flexible and resilient bamboo is equally suited for creating boundaries and protecting itself from what it does not need. Bamboo Forest location: The Grounds for Sculpture, Trenton, NJ
Reading her post made me think about the times we need to reject others points of view and in that way, not listen to them. Sometimes, we need to stop listening so that we can remain true to ourselves and so that we can protect ourselves from hurt and harm. Continue reading
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When a mistake happens at work or at home, do you dwell on it, or do you experience it, let go of it and move forward from it?
When we let something wash over us, we experience it and are changed by it, but we do not stay immersed in it.
It’s not always easy to let go of a bad experience, but we always have the freedom to choose whether we dwell on it, or move on from it.
A bad experience gives us the chance to learn from our own mistakes and the mistakes of others. It gives us reason to listen carefully in conversation about what went wrong and to listen carefully in conversation about how to handle similar situations differently in the future. Continue reading