We begin our lives in birth. We end our lives in death. In between, we live a life that is not always what we think we want, but often gives us more than we ever could believe we could have.
A bittersweet celebration of the circle of life, the time in between the start of one new life, and of another one about to end.
When Dad had a spinal stroke in 2007, we knew that the long-term prognosis was there was no long term. It was fall, not quite two months after he had learned he was going to be a first-time great-grandfather. The day it happened, he had driven five hours to a board meeting, and then, instead of staying for the evening events, he drove five hours home again. He knew something wasn’t right. But he went down to the basement to ride his exercise bike, like he did every night. Mom found him on the floor, the bike on top of him, a short time later.
In a few seconds, Dad’s life changed from being involved in a half-dozen major projects that kept him out of the house eight-and-a-half days a week, as Mom called it, to being bed-ridden. Continue reading
When a bad thing happens to someone else, what do you do? Just what kind of friend are you in a disaster?
A good friend stays with you when the going gets tough.
What kind of friend are you to the person who suffers permanent and severe brain damage? What do you do when a friend learns that his life savings have evaporated through theft, deceit or corruption? What kind of friend are you to the person who goes out for a long run on a sunny day and a bomb explodes, shredding her feet and legs?
Do you stick around while a friend grieves the loss of a marriage, or the death of a spouse or child? Does your presence bring happiness to someone who is out of a job? Are you the person who comes right over to lend a hand when the sump pump fails or the car needs to be retrieved from the impound lot?
What kind of friend are you now? What kind of friend do you want to be? Continue reading
Years ago Jim Carrey starred in a movie called The Truman Show. It was about a man whose every move from the time of his birth had been scripted and choreographed, filmed and broadcast to the rest of the world. All the others in his life were actors, playing their parts. He lived a perfect life. He had no idea he was not living a real life.
Our lives are not a movie script. Everything is not perfectly directed and managed. But when we are free to live our lives as our own, we are free to honestly live.
Credits: Arturo Romay Music Video Shoot with DP Brad W. Smith – Photography by Dennis Symons, Dennis Symons Photographic Arts
Of course, we’re not Truman. Our lives are not perfectly arranged for us. There is no cast and crew working behind the scenes to make sure we’re always exactly where we’re supposed to be and to keep us on script. We don’t always get what we want, or even what we need.
After Truman discovers the truth about his life, he is no longer content to be an actor living his life at the direction of others. He is ready to be the director. He chooses to live as a real person.
Sometimes we do not live our own life but rather live at the direction of others. We agree to be manipulated so that they will love and approve of us. When we discover what is happening, we can choose to do as Truman did. We can choose to break free of the boundaries – the script, that others have penned for us and thereby, penned us in. We can choose to be who we really are. Continue reading