One week from today I will realize a long-delayed dream of moving away from New Jersey. When I moved here in 2000 from Iowa, it was with the intention of staying at
A fond farewell to a place that has provided more experiences than I ever could have imagined.
least three years, and no more than five. Here it is 13 years and six months later. Life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans.
I looked forward to the move to New Jersey for a job in New York that I enjoyed – and the cultural diversity and experiences that are only possible when you live in a true melting pot area. If you’ve ever lived in this part of the country, you know what I mean.
“You’re too quick to want to be discontent,” the woman said to me on the phone.
I had misunderstood what she meant when she suggested I do something, and had interpreted it in a way that would cost me even more money when I could barely afford the purchase I needed to make.
Without clouds, the sun cannot delight us with color. Without adversity, we cannot know happiness.
I had thought her suggestion impertinent and insensitive, in a ‘let them eat cake’ sort of way. At that moment, I thought all of my plans were broken; I was not going to be able to do what I had set my heart on doing.
I should have trusted that what she was offering was logical and reasonable. I should have trusted that I just needed to work harder to understand her meaning. Continue reading
How many times have you heard others say, “failure is not an option”?
Perhaps you’ve said it yourself. What you and they really mean is that failure is not an acceptable outcome to them in this situation.
Many times we face seemingly do-or-die situations – a positive outcome means we win the big pot of gold and public acclamation, a negative means we leave with nothing. But either way, we’re still who we really are, and those who believe in us, still believe in us.
If failure is truly not an option, than that means we will always succeed, no matter how difficult the task, how great the risk, or how little we have prepared ourselves for success.
The world doesn’t work that way, of course. Success only comes with effort. So in truth, failure is always a possibility, and therefore, while it may not be our choice to fail, failure is always an option.
Or to look at it another way, if we really are not permitted to fail, than we’d better not try at all. Continue reading