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8 Signs it is Time to Change Your Life

You’re no doubt familiar with the cautionary tale about putting a frog in a pot of cold water and allowing it to slowly heat, so that the frog never realizes the water is too hot.

8-inch hourglass, white sand descending, on oak table

Sometimes you modify your attitude and actions in increments that are so small, you hardly notice them individually, yet over time, those changes take you far away from your true self.

Until at last, the water boils and the frog is dead.

Have you ever been that frog sitting in warm water, watching the days of your life pass by, unaware that you are about to be boiled alive? Continue reading

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10 Things to Say When Someone You Love is Getting a Divorce

When someone you care about announces she is getting a divorce, what do you say?

Fortunately for you, there are a lot of options. I’ve listed 10 below, and you’ll know which ones will do the most good for your friend if you start not by doing a lot of talking, but by doing a lot of listening.

 

dark cloudy sky, small sun low in the sky, waves coming to shore of sandy beach and rocks.

A divorce is both a sunset and a sunrise. It is a a time to express regret and sadness for the time that has ended, and anticipation and wonder for the new life that is waiting to start.

A good response is like a good meal. It starts with a small appetizer to appease the hunger, more to nourish and sustain, and ends with a light and satisfying morsel. By listening carefully, you’ll be able to respond with the right words and assure your friend she made the right choice in confiding in you. If you’re a close friend, you’re going to get a lot of opportunity to listen over the coming months. Continue reading

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Change Is Not the Enemy You Think It Is

Today marks the first day of a major change for me at work. The head of our department has left the company and so, starting today, our group will take direction from a different person.

cluster of grapes on vine, some green, some red, some deep purple.

Grapes go through a gradual process called veraison whereby they transition from green to fully ripened fruit. This internal transformation can be seen in the external changes in color. Once the transition is completed, they are ready to realize their purpose, they are ready to be made into a fine wine.

This is the fourth such change in four years.

Do you know what makes change so hard? It’s not what you think it is. It’s not the change itself, because change happens in an instant. It’s not in your control.

You had a job, now you don’t. You were part of a couple, now you’re single. You were expecting a baby, now you aren’t. Continue reading

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