Have you ever noticed how much of your day is spent tending to problems and fixing what’s broken?
Sometimes our problems encircle us and keep us from seeing any of the good in our lives. That’s when we have to look for it, and show gratitude when you find it.
Everything from car repairs to sick children to work issues surround you, thrashing for attention.
With so much competition from the problems and the broken things, the things that are going right scarcely have a chance to be noticed. That triage approach of dealing with the problems first works for most parts of your life, except for one: your relationships.
A few weeks ago I wrote about how we allow others to change us over time. We make small changes in our own words and actions in response to their expectations or demands.
From time to time we need to open the book of our life and examine it closely to discover the details a casual observer will never see.
We begin to accept as normal certain words or actions from them or ways that they treat us that previously we would have judged unacceptable. Over time, those incremental changes can end up taking us far away from our true selves. Continue reading
“It’s a bold move on your part to
make the choice to live in a new way.”
~ D’Anne Hotchkiss
I wrote those words a few weeks ago in a blog post called, “Where Lies Your Freedom.”
The decision to try something new requires the courage to go forward when the way forward is not clear.
Making a choice to live in a new way is only the first giant leap of faith in yourself. Making the changes necessary to realize that new way of life is the second giant leap of faith in yourself.
You need courage to change because it is not easy to give up what is comfortable and familiar, even when you know in your heart of hearts that what you’ve been doing isn’t working any longer and you can’t hide from that fact any more. Continue reading