This week we will commemorate the one-year anniversary of the murder of 27 innocent people and the suicide of one mentally ill young adult in Newtown, CT. Since the
Nothing will bring back a loved one. We entertain grief as one of our guests for the holiday.
tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School last December 14, another 15,000 people have been murdered in the US. Every one of those deaths – including Adam Lanza’s – represents a family that is now facing the holiday season with a heart burdened by the senseless absence of a loved one. They bear a particular sorrow of knowing the death was as the result of a criminal and violent act.
‘Tis the season for eggnog and grief. Christmastime is here and it can be a grueling and gut-wrenching reminder of the relationship that has ended for someone who has lost a loved one through death or divorce or discord.
Christmas can be especially difficult when someone is missing. Brad W. Smith, photographer
We can’t bring back the dead, restore a marriage or repair a relationship, but we can be a good friend to a friend who is struggling in this joyous holiday.
As a friend, it helps to first of all remember there is no time limit on mourning.
Are you living the life you want to be remembered for?
Sure, people may remember you lived in a big house and drove an expensive car. They may remember you held a particular job title.
We make a lasting impact on others by living our values.
But will they think of you after the casket flowers have wilted and the funeral dinner has ended? If they do, it won’t be for the things you had, it will be for what you stood for, what you did for others, and how you made them feel.
Do you know how you want to be remembered? You can create your vision for who you are and how you want to be remembered in five words.