The secret to having a good life is to live every day by being true to yourself, no matter what comes your way. Sometimes that is much, much easier said than done.
When you invest yourself, you have better relationships with others.
When you have the best relationship with yourself that you can have, then you’re in position to have the best relationships with everyone in your life: your lover, children, co-workers, even the clerks, officers and workers you encounter daily. Continue reading
You can’t stop someone from intentionally lying to you, but you can stop them from deceiving you.
We are never deceived; we deceive ourselves.
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
The first step is to choose to be aware that some people in your life are less than honest about their accomplishments and experiences. What they say may have elements of truth, but they marshal those facts in a way to give you a wholly false understanding of themselves. Your misunderstanding is not accidental, and it is up to you to uncover the deceptions if you want your relationship to be built on honesty. Continue reading
Nearly 10 years ago, on May 17, 2004, Bill Cosby gave a speech that stirred up a lot of controversy about how Black people, particularly those in the lower economic community, need to take responsibility for themselves. You can read the speech, and additional commentary, here.
We choose how we navigate through life, catching fair winds and keeping our balance when the going gets rough.
He called people out for their behavior and their choices by saying, if they didn’t apply themselves in school, or dropped out, they can’t blame others because they’re working a minimum wage job. While he was speaking to one portion of the Black community, his words ought to resonate with all of us.
Each of us is personally and unilaterally responsible for every choice we make.