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Never Let Words have Power Over You

Why do you let words have power over you? I heard from some readers after I wrote about the controversary of using either ‘the n-word’ or the actual word. Some were offended that I dared to say

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Words can hurt, and when you let them, they fester and become your master. To free yourself from the power of those words over you, take back the power through repeated use, until you have reduced them to mere words on paper.

nigger, even when calling it an offensive word. Some agreed that using substitutions for the word creates further barriers.

More than one suggested that using it repeatedly takes the power away from the word as a pejorative, the way homosexuals adopted use of the word queer and made it their own. (Remember, the original meaning of queer was ‘strange,’ or ‘odd,’ and only later did it become a slur.) Continue reading

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3 Must-Have Items for Great Relationships

Saturday at the Farmer’s Market I watched a four-year-old girl anxiously and tearfully come up to her mother and reveal her freshly scraped elbow. The skin was raw and bloody, the kind of owie that an adult would simply shrug off. Without saying a word, the girl wrapped her arms around her mom.

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The Secret about Lying

“People think that a liar gains a victory over

his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act

of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s

reality to the person to whom one lies…”

~ Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Want better relationships? Want to feel better about yourself? The secret is simple and something that you learned many years ago. It is this: tell the truth when you speak to others about yourself.

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You build a strong foundation for close relationships with others when you exhibit credibility, integrity and trust.

Intentionally creating a false belief – lying – creates barriers between you and other people. When you lie, your motivation, at least in part, is to make others like you better, or to make decisions in your favor, or to cover up an embarrassing mistake you’ve made.

You lie to maintain the illusion of high personal value, or personal wealth, in the eyes of others.

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