It’s time to be honest about what being honest means. Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m just being honest!”
Or, when others object to what has been said, “You just can’t handle the truth.” Being honest does not mean being rude, insensitive to others feelings, using harsh language or swearing like a sailor.
People who do these things are not acting with the goal of being honest. They act to put themselves on a pedestal above others. It’s as if they’re saying, I’m superior to you because I alone see the truth and only I am willing to speak it.
Stop blaming others for your troubles. If you want to achieve your dreams, if you want to live The HOT Life, then the first step is to take responsibility for your life.
When you come up hard against a barrier, you can blame it for being there, or you can take a step back, change course, and find your way around it. Only when you find your way around it can you move towards your destination.
When you blame others for what is happening in your life, you deny responsibility for yourself. You also give others power over that part of your life. More importantly, you will never fix the situation. After all, if it’s not your fault, then there is nothing you can do to fix it. There’s nothing about yourself for you to change.
What does it mean to be honest? It means more than you think, and it’s harder than you might imagine. But the rewards are worth it.
It’s not always easy to be honest, not with others or with yourself. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable by admitting your mistakes and talking about your feelings, your reward is tighter relationships.
A few months ago I wrote a post asking the question, How Do You Live HOT? In it I talked about using the three ideas of being Honest, Open and True as guiding principles to loving yourself. Continue reading