There is perhaps no conversation more difficult to have than the one where a single woman must say to her parents or her lover that she is unexpectedly pregnant.
Pandora’s Box held Hope, as well as Hate and Envy. If we hope to resolve issues that foster feelings as strong as hate and envy, we must start by honestly stating our beliefs.
Can you imagine what it would mean if no woman ever had to have that conversation?
There is no one single answer to the problem of unplanned pregnancy that will ever fit every woman and every situation. Our current public conversation, with its polarized positions, is never going to lead to any answers other than the situations we have now: unplanned pregnancies, forced marriages that rarely last a lifetime, single mothers raising children, and abortions.
This issue, like every other issue, is based far more on beliefs than on facts. What bothers me is that neither side states its true beliefs in the public conversation on this polarizing issue.
A more truthful conversation might frame up the two sides as the Right to Punish vs. the Right for a Woman to Enjoy Sex. Continue reading
Years ago Jim Carrey starred in a movie called The Truman Show. It was about a man whose every move from the time of his birth had been scripted and choreographed, filmed and broadcast to the rest of the world. All the others in his life were actors, playing their parts. He lived a perfect life. He had no idea he was not living a real life.
Our lives are not a movie script. Everything is not perfectly directed and managed. But when we are free to live our lives as our own, we are free to honestly live.
Credits: Arturo Romay Music Video Shoot with DP Brad W. Smith – Photography by Dennis Symons, Dennis Symons Photographic Arts
Of course, we’re not Truman. Our lives are not perfectly arranged for us. There is no cast and crew working behind the scenes to make sure we’re always exactly where we’re supposed to be and to keep us on script. We don’t always get what we want, or even what we need.
After Truman discovers the truth about his life, he is no longer content to be an actor living his life at the direction of others. He is ready to be the director. He chooses to live as a real person.
Sometimes we do not live our own life but rather live at the direction of others. We agree to be manipulated so that they will love and approve of us. When we discover what is happening, we can choose to do as Truman did. We can choose to break free of the boundaries – the script, that others have penned for us and thereby, penned us in. We can choose to be who we really are. Continue reading