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What’s in Your Wallet – A Counterfeit Life?

Do you know what is behind every decision and every action we take? It’s our integrity. Integrity is the currency of our lives. When we act with integrity, we’re paying our way in life with a type of money we keep in our moral wallet. Each piece of currency represents some guideline that we use, consciously or subconsciously, every day of our lives. When we use this currency consistently, people know they can bank on us doing the right thing.

two crumbling brick pillars and porch foundation of what was a fine home; brick fireplace

When we cut moral corners, we wear away our own foundation. Cracks appear, pieces crumble, and eventually, our integrity has disappeared. What’s left is insufficient to sustain a moral life.

When we cut a moral corner, it’s like we’re putting counterfeit money into our wallets, where it gets mixed in with the integrity money that we pull out later. We tell ourselves we’re not hurting anyone. That’s not true.

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Please Make This Argument Go Away

I’ve spent the last few days immersed in family history, including the story of two brothers who split apart, became business competitors, and apparently did not speak to each other ever again.

autumn trees around the lake, reflected in the water.

We cannot change the future by reflecting on the past. History cannot change, but it does not have to repeat itself.

Talk about having an argument! Something tells me this was over more than who got the wishbone after Thanksgiving dinner.It is of course pure supposition on my part, but my guess is that they never resolved their conflict because they focused only on what had happened in the past, instead of how they could work together in the future.

It doesn’t matter whether the conflict is about something monumentally significant or infinitesimally small; a conflict is really about one person losing so the other can win. I have to be right. So that means you must be wrong.  Continue reading

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I don’t know.

One thing I’ve noticed in working with people is that some always have an answer, even when it is clear they don’t know what they’re talking about. They’ve never become comfortable with saying, “I don’t know.”  

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We love to give answers. Sometimes we better serve others and ourselves when we are willing to say, “I don’t know.”

We all want answers because we hate ambiguity. We all want answers because answers give us a sense of control. When they are incomplete, or rooted in beliefs, not facts, answers can turn a good situation bad,  and make a bad situation worse.

We do ourselves and those around us a tremendous favor when we become willing to say, “I don’t know,” instead of jumping to conclusions or insisting that we have an answer when at best we have only some of the facts or even, only our firmly held beliefs. Continue reading

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