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Ways to Show We Care When Someone Dies

When someone dies, we want to reach out and comfort those who were closest to the deceased. We want to show we care about the bereaved in a personal way. Just as we use our words to comfort those who are grieving the death of a loved one, we can also use our actions to show we care.

a table laden with assorted sweet desserts; fireplace and glass-front china cabinet in the background

When we want our actions to say we care, we are not limited to sending flowers or bringing food. Sometimes, all we need to do is show up.

When we give our most precious gift of all, a gift of ourselves, we make a personal statement about the importance of our relationship to the deceased or to the surviving family.  Continue reading

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The Art of Comforting Someone in Mourning

When someone dies, we often hear ourselves promising to visit or call a person in mourning in the days or weeks following the death and funeral. Sometimes our own promise fosters in us feelings of panic. What do we say? What do we do?

textured gold and silver relief of woman comforting man, from the back.

We can give immense comfort simply through our compassionate presence and our unconditional listening.

Relax. I’ll tell you a secret. There is an art to bringing comfort to those who are in  mourning. That art lies in our ability to listen attentively and compassionately to what they want to say. In other words, when in doubt about what to say, switch from talking to listening. Chances are good that a person who lost a loved one recently needs the gift of unconditional listening more than anything else. Continue reading

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3 Phrases that Bring Comfort when Someone Dies

I’ve been to a lot of funerals and visitations in the past few years, not as one who has come to pay respects, but as part of the bereaved family. As such, I’ve been on the receiving end of a lot of statements of support. I’ve also watched some people struggle to know what to say.

A small private cemetery with American flag, tree, fence

Comforting words come from the heart to speak honestly about the death that has occurred and the feelings of the bereaved.

When it’s our turn to pay our respects at a visitation or funeral, we want our words to bring comfort. We want to be known as someone who understands.

Choosing the right words to say is a good first step. Knowing we have the right words gives us the courage to speak with compassion. When we pair those two things, our genuine concern for the person we’re speaking to shines through, and our words give comfort and we are remembered for it. Continue reading

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