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Why You Think Words Cannot Express Your Feelings

Many years ago a friend of mine was murdered at work. Her killer has never been found.

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Grief is not expressed in platitudes. Grief is expressed only by knowing what is in your heart and putting your feelings into words.

 

As far as I know, the police have never even uncovered a possible motive. She left a husband and two small boys.She and I were part of large group of friends who were in the habit of getting together nearly every week. Together, we grieved our loss.

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10 Things to Say When Someone You Love is Getting a Divorce

When someone you care about announces she is getting a divorce, what do you say?

Fortunately for you, there are a lot of options. I’ve listed 10 below, and you’ll know which ones will do the most good for your friend if you start not by doing a lot of talking, but by doing a lot of listening.

 

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A divorce is both a sunset and a sunrise. It is a a time to express regret and sadness for the time that has ended, and anticipation and wonder for the new life that is waiting to start.

A good response is like a good meal. It starts with a small appetizer to appease the hunger, more to nourish and sustain, and ends with a light and satisfying morsel. By listening carefully, you’ll be able to respond with the right words and assure your friend she made the right choice in confiding in you. If you’re a close friend, you’re going to get a lot of opportunity to listen over the coming months. Continue reading

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Words Cannot Express: What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Say

How many times have you heard someone say, or even read on a sympathy card, ‘words cannot express how I feel.’? Maybe you’ve said those words, or wanted to say

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When you’re searching for the words to express your feelings, look in your heart, not in your head.

them, when something terrible happened to someone in your life. You wanted to comfort your friend, neighbor or family member, and the right words did not spring to mind, and so you fell for the myth that the words don’t exist. Continue reading

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