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The Crossroads Faced and Choices Made in Charleston Last Week

Whenever we experience a national crisis such as the act of terrorism inside the Mother Emanuel AME church in Charleston, SC, by Dylann Storm Roof, three

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Life is a series of choices about what you choose to believe, to do, and to say. You can choose to act and speak in accordance with your values, or you can choose to take a different route.

things fascinate me.  They fascinate me because each one represents a crossroads faced, and choices made to take one path and not another.

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Why Conflict is Good For You

If you’re like most people, you try to avoid conflict. You shouldn’t. Conflict is good for you because it provides the opportunity to tell someone about your

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When a conflict arises, your first instinct may be to bury it inside, or to erupt in dramatic anger. Neither is good because you won’t have accomplished your real goal of changing the situation.

boundary and for that person to make a change. Conflict arises when how someone treats you or speaks to you crosses the boundaries of how you want others to treat you or speak to you. A conflict is simply the discovery and acknowledgement that the way the two of you relate to each other currently is not working.

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The Real Reason Why You Must Apologize

Life involves a series of rules, according to the character Leroy Jethro Gibbs in the long-running TV show, NCIS. 

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It’s harder to admit a mistake than to deny you made it. So why would anyone say that making an apology is a sign of weakness?

One of those rules is Rule #6, “Never apologize, it’s a sign of weakness.”

Gibbs got it wrong.

It’s harder to admit a mistake than to deny you made it. So which action is the sign of weakness?

It’s not a sign of weakness to apologize. It’s a sign of strength. But that’s not the real reason why you must apologize.

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