On today, Veterans Day, we honor America’s veterans for their patriotism, love of country, and commitment to serve and sacrifice for the common good. We are reminded to think about the sacrifices and service of the men and women who have valiantly and selflessly committed themselves to military service to bring freedom and democracy to persons in other countries and under other government rule.
We make and keep commitments and willingly sacrifice so that others may enjoy a better life.
They fight so that others might enjoy the same freedoms we enjoy, and to ensure we continue to enjoy those freedoms ourselves.
It got me to thinking about how those of us not in the military are also committed to serve others and make sacrifices for them right here at home, every day.
A few weeks ago I wrote a post called Don’t Tell Me You Don’t Have Time about keeping the commitments we make, being accountable to others, and about being good time managers able to prioritize the demands on our time.
If there’s never enough time to do what you need to do, then there must be too many things that you think you want to do.
Today I want to talk about time commitment, or more correctly, time over-commitment.
Sometimes we really don’t have time because we’re over-scheduled, over-committed, over-taxed, and generally, overwhelmed. We make too many commitments, we fail to plan, and we overestimate our abilities and underestimate the requirements of the projects we take on. The result is that we run from one thing that demands our attention to the next. Continue reading
You know that I stand for honesty, openness and truthfulness in relationships. But I also believe that these things need to be tempered by our self-respect, as evidenced by the boundaries that we place for ourselves on our relationships with others.
How firm are your boundaries? Do they keep you where you want to be while allowing for exceptions and special circumstances?
Sometimes, we allow our boundaries to shift under the force of another’s agenda or in response to a more important agenda of our own.
You’ve probably heard that some corporations insist on shoulder-surfing the Facebook pages of applicants during the interview. Their agenda is to see information about the applicant that they cannot legally ask, information to be used as part of the hiring decision that is not related to the person’s job qualifications. Applicants, hungry for the job and facing competition, are complying. Applicants have one agenda: get the job. They may well allow their boundaries to shift, choosing to sacrifice some self-respect in exchange for a chance at a paycheck. Anyone who has been unemployed for a while has already sacrificed some self-respect just to survive. It’s easier to sacrifice a little more.
I don’t know what I would do in that situation. Continue reading