We have a tradition in our family: when it’s your birthday, you get to be the center of attention for the whole day. You get to make the important decisions
It’s great to let someone be the center of attention some of the time, but remember to keep a balance in your relationships by grabbing some spotlight for yourself too.
by yourself, like what you want to eat, how you spend the day, and when you will open your presents. Rules get bent in your favor. You don’t have to share with anyone. You always get to go first. You are the center of attention and everyone wants you to be happy. For that one day, you sit at the top of your world.
When someone says to you, “Our relationship needs to change,” what do you do next? There are a lot of right responses. However, there is only one response
When one person is always giving and the other is always receiving, the imbalance keeps the relationship from being a true partnership.
that is always wrong: “No, it doesn’t.” Unfortunately, that’s the response most of us give. Not out loud, but in our heads. We can feel threatened and full of fear when the other person asks for what he needs – a change. There is a better way to respond to that kind of statement than to set your mind to maintaining the status quo.
The hardest conversations we ever have are those where there’s little common ground. It’s hard to find the common ground when it’s littered with graffiti,
whether that graffiti is physical or verbal. When you can find common ground, you can move from being on opposite sides of an issue to sitting side by side working towards resolution.
One of those conversations with little common ground is the issue of Confederate monuments on public display.