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Just Say It

Let your tongue speak what your heart thinks.

~ Davy Crockett

It can be hard to say what you really mean in a conversation. Sometimes it’s hard because you struggle to find the right words.

Sometimes it’s hard because something within you holds you back from simply saying what you really mean. Continue reading


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How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

I am a fan of Frank Lloyd Wright architecture. Wright believed architecture should be an organic union of the site, the purpose and the structure. He had a firm vision for his life’s work and he is remembered for adhering to his belief that form, function and materials should be well-integrated and complementary.

black and white image of Fallingwater

Frank Lloyd Wright believed architecture should be an organic union of the site, the purpose and the structure. Our lives can be an organic union of our values and priorities and the roles we fill in our community, profession and family.

One of his most well-known homes is Fallingwater, in southwestern Pennsylvania. The house is perfectly integrated into its surroundings. While elegant in its setting, it is well-suited for its purpose as a summer home. Each element of the home, including the furniture Wright designed (never taller than the bottom of the windows so as to not block the view) is intentional and related to all the other elements.

I think his view of this organic union can be applied as a philosophy for living a well-integrated life, a life for which we want to be remembered. Continue reading

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Don’t Be a Know-It-All

When we’re used to being the one in charge, the one who makes the decisions and directs others to action, it can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking we know it all.

2 dozen geese on a fall pond, one is flapping its wings and squawking, while the others calmly ignore him

The know-it-all is so busy trying to impress others with his knowledge that he fails to recognize that while everyone can hear him, no one is listening to him.

Once caught in that trap, we can think we have nothing to learn from anyone else, and that everyone else could benefit from our knowledge.

At a dinner party a few months ago, I had the painful experience of watching this know-it-all scenario play out. It was a small, casual gathering of old friends and newcomers. Partway through the evening, someone posed a question to an expert with multiple degrees in an area of highly specialized science. Very quickly, someone else jumped into the conversation. This second person, we had learned earlier in the evening, is an accomplished professional with an impressive career. But it became clear very quickly he had only limited knowledge in this area of science. Continue reading

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