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Why Do Bad Things Happen?

Those who know me know I have a wacky (some would say warped) sense of humor. So a few weeks ago when our pastor quoted from the book of Matthew, I got to thinking

“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny?

And not one of them will fall to the ground

without your Father’s will. But even

the hairs of your head are all numbered.”

~ Matthew 10: 29-30

about what the scripture said and meant, and what it didn’t, about why bad things happen. Here’s where my wacky sense of humor comes in. So if sparrows don’t fall without it being God’s will, and even just your hair is more important than the sparrow, does that mean that no hair falls from your head that God has not ordained?

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Yes, You Can Trust Yourself

You are your own greatest gift.

When you speak kindly to yourself, listen to yourself, acknowledge your own needs and take care of them,

 

muddy creek, tree-lined, white man in shorts, shirtless

You trust in what appears to be trustworthy, until you have to let go and plunge straight into the cold unknown.

 

and when you trust yourself, you are accepting the gift of yourself.

Doing these things can be hard in times of personal struggle, especially when someone important to you is causing you to doubt yourself. This happens especially in divorce.

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10 Things to Say When Someone You Love is Getting a Divorce

When someone you care about announces she is getting a divorce, what do you say?

Fortunately for you, there are a lot of options. I’ve listed 10 below, and you’ll know which ones will do the most good for your friend if you start not by doing a lot of talking, but by doing a lot of listening.

 

dark cloudy sky, small sun low in the sky, waves coming to shore of sandy beach and rocks.

A divorce is both a sunset and a sunrise. It is a a time to express regret and sadness for the time that has ended, and anticipation and wonder for the new life that is waiting to start.

A good response is like a good meal. It starts with a small appetizer to appease the hunger, more to nourish and sustain, and ends with a light and satisfying morsel. By listening carefully, you’ll be able to respond with the right words and assure your friend she made the right choice in confiding in you. If you’re a close friend, you’re going to get a lot of opportunity to listen over the coming months. Continue reading

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