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New Jersey in the Rearview Mirror

One week from today I will realize a long-delayed dream of moving away from New Jersey. When I moved here in 2000 from Iowa, it was with the intention of staying at

LifeIsHOTBlog, Brad W. Smith photographer, edge of the ocean along the Jersey shore, hand-printed words in sand Good-bye New Jersey

A fond farewell to a place that has provided more experiences than I ever could have imagined.

least three years, and no more than five. Here it is 13 years and six months later. Life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans.

I looked forward to the move to New Jersey for a job in New York that I enjoyed – and the cultural diversity and experiences that are only possible when you live in a true melting pot area. If you’ve ever lived in this part of the country, you know what I mean.

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The Myth of Integrity

Common wisdom says that we can destroy our integrity in an instant. Common wisdom is wrong.

yellowed smooth pillars, each on a red brick foundation, crumbled brick, remains of a house

Our lives are built on integrity. Instant gratification and expediency wear it away and in time, can cause our lives to crumble.

That instant of destruction people refer to is not the moment we lose our integrity, rather it is the moment when the truth is discovered that we do not have integrity. It is at that moment of truth that the façade of who we are implodes and falls to the ground in a heap of rubble.

The truth is that every time we choose to lie about what we are doing, where we have been, or what we profess to be, we are destroying a bit of our integrity. It is only a matter of time before the truth is discovered and the carefully constructed façade is destroyed. Continue reading

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Five Minute Friday: Broken

“You’re too quick to want to be discontent,” the woman said to me on the phone.

I had misunderstood what she meant when she suggested I do something, and had interpreted it in a way that would cost me even more money when I could barely afford the purchase I needed to make.

late-day sun illuminates a bank of dark clouds, sky below the clouds is orange; blue ocean

Without clouds, the sun cannot delight us with color. Without adversity, we cannot know happiness.

I had thought her suggestion impertinent and insensitive, in a ‘let them eat cake’ sort of way. At that moment, I thought all of my plans were broken; I was not going to be able to do what I had set my heart on doing.

I should have trusted that what she was offering was logical and reasonable. I should have trusted that I just needed to work harder to understand her meaning. Continue reading

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