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The Right Thing to Say When Someone Dies

Brad’s mother died a week ago today. Since then, many of our friends have expressed condolences in person or in a short note.

I’ve noticed that some people seem to naturally know what to say to bring comfort. Others struggle. Some resort to platitudes that do not bring comfort and sometimes bring more pain. Wouldn’t it be great if we always knew the right thing to say when someone dies?

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Grief makes us feel closed off from others, the right words can help open communication.

The right thing to say is composed of five simple ideas, and two optional statements. Each idea can be expressed in a few words. Here is a step-by-step guide to knowing the right thing to say when someone dies. Continue reading

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There Is No Single Version of the Truth

In the week since Adam Lanza killed 20 innocent young children and six heroic adults in the town of Newport, Connecticut, many people have proclaimed to know why it happened, or at least who or what to blame.LifeIsHOTBlog, Brad W. Smith photographer, No Single Version of the Truth, meauring device

There are many degrees of truth, but no absolute truths, only absolute beliefs.

Informed only by the limited details reported ad nauseum by media, they’ve reached a conclusion.

Well, I’ve got news for them. For the most part, they’re wrong. They’re wrong because they point to one single answer as though it were the absolute truth. There is no single version of the truth. No One Right Answer. Not for Sandy Hook, not for the fiscal cliff, not for your business, not for a better relationship with your teenager. Truth is a compound substance composed of many beliefs. There is no pure element in the periodic table of life called Truth. Continue reading

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Uncouple and Stop Fighting with Your Past

One of my favorite Brit-coms is “Coupling,” a story about six characters and their past and present relationships with one another. If you’ve never seen an episode, the

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Too much attention to the dark past can cause us to miss the bright future in front of us.

American TV shows “Friends” and “Seinfeld” are similar.

Forming and ending relationships is a significant part of life. When a relationship ends, we must uncouple from our expectations about that relationship and from our dreams for our role in it. Jon Mertz, over at Thin Difference talks about living an unlife life. By that, he means leaving in the past those parts that need to stay there so that we can continue on our life’s journey. Uncoupling is necessary for us to continue on our own journey through life. Continue reading

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