We’re all part of team. Whether it’s a work team bound together by responsibility or the team called our family who are bound by blood and law, we’re on the team and we have an important role.
As a leader at work or at home, we can spot the players we do not need and ask them to leave the game.
Every team member is valuable and important, but the truth is, there are seven players we do not need on our team. We do not need them because rather than being team players, they engage in self-serving behaviors. They don’t play with us, they play against us. Continue reading
“Just be yourself and everything will be fine.”
These words of wisdom have been passed from countless parents to their children at the beginning of every momentous childhood event: the first day of school, summer camp, a new neighborhood, leaving for college, starting a career job.
Artist Nicholas Simmons’ watercolor, “After all the violence and double-talk”
Yet somehow we keep forgetting the message.
We listen to criticism inflicted by others and by our own inner critic and we respond by trying to be who we are not. We seek to alter our authentic selves and to silence our critics by hiding behind costumes of clothes and sets replete with cars and houses. We eat in the right restaurants, go to the right cultural events, support the right charities, cheer for the right teams. In listening to the critics, we lose the joy of living our own life. Continue reading
If you’re like me, you depend upon a global positioning system to help you get around in unfamiliar places. I have one in my car, and another one on my phone. GPS applications have a nifty feature – or an annoying habit, depending on your point of view – of adjusting for driving errors on the fly. While the GPS is making an adjustment, it matter-of-factly intones: “Recalculating.”
Our GPS for life, the one that always helps us find Doing Right, is the moral compass that is deep within us.
We all say we want to do the right thing. And for the most part, we mean it, even when we’re not sure what is right. Continue reading