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It’s Hard to Find the Common Ground When It’s Littered with Graffiti

The hardest conversations we ever have are those where there’s little common ground. It’s hard to find the common ground when it’s littered with graffiti, It’s Hard to Find the Common Ground When It’s Littered with Graffiti Brad W. Smith


whether that graffiti is physical or verbal. When you can find common ground, you can move from being on opposite sides of an issue to sitting side by side working towards resolution.

One of those conversations with little common ground is the issue of Confederate monuments on public display.

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Here’s What I’m Thinking

“Here’s what I’m thinking,” is a phrase I use often in conversations at home, with friends, and at work. I’ve found that it opens the door to a discussion –

Here's What I'm Thinking Brad W. Smith, LifeisHOTBlog two young men, one white, one black, in discussion

When you take the time to engage others in conversation about your decisions, and share with them your rationale, you’re far more likely to gain acceptance, agreement and commitment.

especially when others seem to be reluctant to share an opinion, or to engage in the conversation, or they are not receptive to whatever action I just suggested.

It’s an effective technique at work, and you may already use it there.

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Your Beliefs Don’t Have to Define You

Your beliefs don’t have to define you, only if you let them. They express your understanding of the truth right now, and you have the choice to consider other

 Your Beliefs Don’t Have to Define You, LifeIsHOTBlog, Brad W. Smith photographer, photo text: “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”


beliefs and opinions. You can choose to maintain your beliefs and to change your mind in the face of new information.

If, on the other hand, you equate your beliefs with the truth, then you’re more likely to feel anxious and frustrated with others who don’t share your convictions. Continue reading

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