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You Can Stop People from Deceiving You

You can’t stop someone from intentionally lying to you, but you can stop them from deceiving you.

 We are never deceived; we deceive ourselves.

~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The first step is to choose to be aware that some people in your life are less than honest about their accomplishments and experiences. What they say may have elements of truth, but they marshal those facts in a way to give you a wholly false understanding of themselves. Your misunderstanding is not accidental, and it is up to you to uncover the deceptions if you want your relationship to be built on honesty.   Continue reading

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Win the Gold in Conversation

The XXII Olympic Winter Games 2014 are beginning in Sochi. Most of us are not the exceptional athletes in the sports featured

five middle-aged white men and women, yellow tablecloth, filled wood bookshelves

Going for the gold in conversation means achieving stronger relationships

at the Olympics. We are, or can be, exceptional in our own daily events.

‘Conversation’ is one such daily event. Continue reading

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Can We Talk?

The question, ‘can we talk?’ can strike fear or dread in us because we anticipate that the person asking the question is about to bring up a subject we find difficult to

Brad W. Smith photographer, LifeIsHOTBlog, Can We Talk two white men, casually dressed, older one looking at camera, younger man laughing.

The most rewarding conversations are those that break silence into small pieces with speech.

discuss. Or, that the person is going to launch in to a sermon, or worse, a diatribe, about our latest short-coming. Sometimes I like to answer that question with one of my own: ‘can we listen?’

Conversation is not one person talking. It is a collaborative effort to exchange information in a cooperative manner. It is a group effort where each person contributes by chiming in and also by listening and comprehending what is being said. Conversation is silence broken into small pieces by speech.

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