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16 Reasons to be Open-Minded

A few weeks ago for the first time in my life I ate steamed artichoke leaves. To me, the idea of putting thistle leaves in my mouth

yellow sky above the ocean, dark clouds overhead, Morro Bay rock left

When you keep your mind open to recognizing opportunities, the world opens up many new possibilities for you.

sounded awful and I had always managed to successfully avoid the experience. But since I was an overnight guest in the seaside home of friends, I gamely gave it a try.

What a pleasant surprise. I am totally hooked and look forward to having them again. Yes, Dr. Seuss wrote about a similar food experience in his book Green Eggs and Ham.  Yes, to borrow a phrase, “Thank you. Thank you, Sam-I-am.” Continue reading

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Filtering the White Noise

Have you ever spent time at the shore watching the tide push in and pull back again?

rocks form small inlet; water swirls

Frequent conversations on the same topics with the same people can become ‘white noise’ in your relationships that keep you from listening.

It’s a passive activity that lulls you into a near-hypnotic state of relaxation. After a while, the overpowering sound from the relentless ebb and flow of water becomes mere white noise. Constant, without discernible distinct sounds, you become unaware of it. 

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How do I Get to Know You?

What can I do to get to know other people?

I’m so glad you asked me.

seated at table, l-r, balding man with glasses next to gray-haired woman with glasses; they are across from gray-haired woman, back to camera

The conversational habit of asking questions will not only tell you a lot about others, it will tell them a lot about you.

Listening to what others say is of course paramount.

Listening to what is meant by what they say is even more effective.

Of course, in order for you to listen, the other person needs to talk. My favorite way to get to know others is to simply ask them questions and then listen!

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