I’m fascinated by people who make it a standard practice to mislead people. They don’t mean what they’re saying because what they’re saying is not
Whether verbal graffiti sounds great, or sounds hurtful, it never sounds honest.
honest. They want to prevent direct and useful conversation. I call this technique Verbal Graffiti. The first step to handling Verbal Graffiti is to recognize you’re hearing it. Continue reading
Nobody likes a stupid argument. A stupid argument, in case you’re wondering, is one where neither of you keep to the topic that you both need or want to
Time-outs aren’t just for the kids. Give yourself a break when a conversation starts to turn toxic.
discuss and instead rush headlong into the land of name-calling, shouting, talking over each other and other things that prevent what could be a useful conversation that gives you each what you need and makes your relationship stronger.
If you’ve been reading some of my recent posts on Verbal Graffiti, you know that I’ve been talking about the various ways we prevent direct and useful conversation. Today’s post is about how to handle Verbal Graffiti so that it doesn’t cover up the conversation you really mean to have
and want to have. Continue reading
It’s human nature to want to avoid a difficult conversation. You’ve been doing it since you were a child, and now as an adult, the fact you are avoiding a
difficult conversation doesn’t even cross your mind. Most of us would rather pretend a problem doesn’t exist than confront someone about a problem. And that’s exactly what we do. Chances are great that your current approach isn’t working for you. While you’ve been busy avoiding conversations you don’t want to have, you’ve also been a victim of others. Continue reading