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One Secret to Marriages that Last a Lifetime

If Dad were still alive, today he and Mom would be celebrating their 60th anniversary. Because he is not, later today, Mom will receive a beautiful bouquet of flowers from their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren in Dad’s memory and in honor of their long marriage.

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Happy 60th wedding anniversary, Mom and Dad

Opposites attract, and that was certainly true in their case. Although, as Mom would remind me, just being husband and wife is opposite enough. After a short courtship, Dad shipped out to fight in the Korean War. The remainder of their courtship was chronicled in a suitcase full of airmailed letters. When he returned, they married, and for six decades they remained wholly committed to one another.

While many of us may never live to see our 60th anniversary, we can all take steps to ensure our own marriage or partnership lasts a lifetime. Continue reading

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The Right Thing to Say When Someone Dies

Brad’s mother died a week ago today. Since then, many of our friends have expressed condolences in person or in a short note.

I’ve noticed that some people seem to naturally know what to say to bring comfort. Others struggle. Some resort to platitudes that do not bring comfort and sometimes bring more pain. Wouldn’t it be great if we always knew the right thing to say when someone dies?

The Right Thing to Say When Someone Dies, Brad W. Smith photographer LIfeIsHOTBlog

Grief makes us feel closed off from others, the right words can help open communication.

The right thing to say is composed of five simple ideas, and two optional statements. Each idea can be expressed in a few words. Here is a step-by-step guide to knowing the right thing to say when someone dies. Continue reading

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Resolve to Be Your Own Friend

The kind of person I want to be is a person who is my own best friend. The person who respects my thoughts and soothes my fears.

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We are meant to only see so far ahead. We are not meant to see all the way to the end.

 

The person who says to me, sit down, put your feet up, you’ve done enough for right now, take time to recharge your batteries. The person who forgives me my errors and recognizes my humanness. You made a mistake? It’s okay.

Rather than making resolutions to be better for others, we should resolve only to be better for ourselves. Continue reading

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