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Why Conflict is Good For You

If you’re like most people, you try to avoid conflict. You shouldn’t. Conflict is good for you because it provides the opportunity to tell someone about your

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When a conflict arises, your first instinct may be to bury it inside, or to erupt in dramatic anger. Neither is good because you won’t have accomplished your real goal of changing the situation.

boundary and for that person to make a change. Conflict arises when how someone treats you or speaks to you crosses the boundaries of how you want others to treat you or speak to you. A conflict is simply the discovery and acknowledgement that the way the two of you relate to each other currently is not working.

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Want Real Love? The Key is Fair Fights, Not Flowers

Dr. D. A. Graham is an expert on relationships and how to make them and keep them strong and healthy by resolving the inevitable conflicts through clear communications.

With Valentine’s Day looming, romance is in the air. While I like a bouquet of roses as much as the next person, the pop-culture view of an ideal relationship is usually unrealistic and can lead to disappointment.

Real love fights fair, large bouquet of cut roses and small flowers in glass vase, D'Anne Hotchkiss, photographer

The secret to successful, long-lasting relationships isn’t flowers, it’s how well you fight.


The real secret to successful, long-lasting relationships may have less to do with flowers and more to do with how well you fight.

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Why Effective Listening Matters

Would you be surprised to learn that most of us only listen with about 25 percent efficiency? Another way to look at it is that we only hear one in every four words. It’s not

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Leadership and listening are linked, the better we listen, the better we lead. But most of us think we are better listeners than we really are.

because listening effectively is so difficult, it’s because we believe we already listen better than the average person and therefore, we do not need to improve our listening effectiveness.

You might change your point of view when I tell you that those who listen effectively are 40 percent more likely to be more effective leaders.

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