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Manipulation Misery

Years ago I met a man who spent his days manipulating certain people in his life to do for him what he wanted.

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When you don’t trust yourself, you steal from others and give them nothing in return, while holding yourself above responsibility for yourself or accountability to others.

He took from those who loved him all that he could, while giving nothing to them in return. Not surprisingly, his life wasn’t going too well the last time I saw him. He was miserable. Continue reading

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Courage is Plentiful and Easy to Find

It takes courage to stand up for yourself, so how do you go about finding that courage?

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It takes courage to seek what you need and when you do, you will grow and flourish.

Standing up for yourself takes a particular kind of courage that is different from the courage it takes to stand up for others. It can be easier to rescue others when they need help than to rescue yourself because you may find it hard to accept that your needs are just as important as anyone’s needs.

You’ve probably heard this before: Courage is not the absence of fear but the willingness to take action in spite of your fear.

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Hey You! I’m Talking to You

Somewhere, deep inside you, is a part of you yearning for a piece of your own attention.

 

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Quiet time alone by yourself restores your soul and feeds your spirit in a way that being engaged with others in an activity cannot.

 

On Monday I wrote about how maintaining a strong sense of self requires time alone and how an intimate connection with yourself deserves the same urgent attention that you give to the needs of everyone else.

Yes, we are meant to be with others. We are also meant to be alone with ourselves. Continue reading

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