The late American composer, conductor and pianist Leonard Bernstein once said that playing second fiddle is the most difficult instrument of all. “…to find someone who can play the second fiddle with enthusiasm – that’s a problem; and if we have no second fiddle, we have no harmony.”
Mastering the art of conversation requires both the willingness and the ability to play second fiddle.
The question, ‘can we talk?’ can strike fear or dread in us because we anticipate that the person asking the question is about to bring up a subject we find difficult to
The most rewarding conversations are those that break silence into small pieces with speech.
discuss. Or, that the person is going to launch in to a sermon, or worse, a diatribe, about our latest short-coming. Sometimes I like to answer that question with one of my own: ‘can we listen?’
Conversation is not one person talking. It is a collaborative effort to exchange information in a cooperative manner. It is a group effort where each person contributes by chiming in and also by listening and comprehending what is being said. Conversation is silence broken into small pieces by speech.